Anger can be overwhelming to the point that you lose all control of your actions. Your intentions may be shifted by your enraged frustration that you can’t seem to release. Anger comes in many different forms. Some conceal their anger negatively and cause self-harm, or harm to others in order to counteract what they may be feeling. Others use anger in a positive light and find methodical outlets to produce positive outcomes to what they may be experiencing. If you feel as though your anger is getting out of hand and begins controlling you here are some steps to help you control it, instead of the other way around.
As you sense yourself slipping out of control, stop. Don’t let your anger get the best of you. This is easy to say but extremely hard to do. The thought that you can stop your anger seems impossible. You can’t control everybody, so running into tough situations is inevitable. But turning your anger into motivation, for example, can be a positive shift in what you are feeling.
This can translate to “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say it at all”. In many cases when people are angry, they drop their verbal filter and unleash hurtful words. Trying to remain calm and avoiding saying negative things to yourself as well as others can be a positive step towards control when it comes to anger.
Giving yourself space can also be a good way to control your anger. The last thing you want to do in a situation is to remain mad because you are in the same environment that sparked this feeling. You can’t solve a problem or fix a feeling in a fit of anger. You must remove yourself from any situation you are in and allow yourself to regroup. This will allow you to calm down, before making any rash decisions based on the mood of the situation.
Taking deep breaths can help control your internal and physical response to anger. Your rate heart increases when you are angry. Taking deep breaths slows your heart rate more quickly than time would. Deep breathing helps your body fill with oxygen and puts a stop to the adrenaline rush you may feel because of all of the emotion you may be experiencing. This oxygen flow will relax your body, calm your breathing, and slow your heart rate.
Before getting to the point where you can’t control your anger, analyze your situation. Assess why you are mad and how you could have addressed the situation in a different light. Maybe you were fighting with a loved one and there was already pre-existing tension.
Getting angry is inevitable, we all feel anger towards something. Knowing how to redirect your anger can be extremely beneficial. It can allow you to avoid feeling like you are out of control in certain situations. Control your anger before it controls you.