Controlling your surroundings isn’t always easy. It’s hard to control every situation you are in, especially if there are other people involved. Our surroundings form our behaviors and our emotions more than we’re able to acknowledge or care to admit to ourselves. But when it comes to controlling your life, that’s even a greater challenge. We must first evaluate what it means to have control over your life. Taking control of your life simply means that you have awareness of every aspect of your life and you walk into situations with a certain level confidence. Having this confidence means that you have higher chances of doing one thing in order to get desired results.
To achieve these desired results you have to be okay with what is in and out of your control. A great quote from Wayne Dyer says, “You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.” You can’t always control what happens to you but you can control how you react to it. You can control your thoughts, emotions, and your actions towards external factors. This isn’t an easy practice and not something that is going to happen overnight. You have to learn how to channel your stress, anger, sadness into different aspects that will not affect you.
These external factors may cause these feelings sometimes, but the greatest way to have control over your life is to stop blaming others for how you are feeling. If you want to control your surroundings you have to understand that eventually, you have to hold yourself accountable. Rather than accusing others of what is happening in your life, you discover your own role in the problem. Now, not every problem is your fault, but it’s the way that you react and how you let that problem define you. This is directly letting the problem control your life instead of the other way around.
Letting the problem define you should not be a stressful endeavor. You can’t control everything, it’s impossible. You only have control over yourself and not others. To fix this problem, and to live an easier life, avoid toxic people, places, and things that bring you down. This will eliminate the stress that comes from these things.
Being informed about your surroundings will give you awareness of what is going on around you, you will feel calmer knowing you are more in control. This happens because you have less uncertainty about the unknown, you go into situations prepared.
Living a life in which you are intune with your emotions and feelings may seem impossible, but everyone can do it. You must first find out what makes you sad, stressed, or angry and avoid these situations. You must understand that you can’t control every situation, but think about how you react to it. In many situations, our emotions escalate to a certain level based on how intense it may be. But stop and think first about how your emotions may continue this rise in tension. Either walk away or discuss it reasonably.