6 Steps To Healing

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Healing isn’t always easy. It takes time and willpower to create change in your life. Traumatic events, big or small, can be very detrimental to an individual’s well being. It takes time to heal. Here are some tips to help you on your healing journey.

  1.     Recognize that there is nothing wrong with you.

No matter what’s going on, remember that you are human. We are predestined to make mistakes and to get wrapped up in tough situations. Understanding that this problem isn’t necessarily your fault is the first step to healing. Many who have survived violence or abuse seem to be inflicted with self-blame/shame. You are not directly the cause of what happened to you. The shame you may feel is not yours to carry. In our society today, medically speaking, when someone experiences trauma, it’s automatically diagnosed with a mental illness. When, in fact, what happened to them is the real illness at hand. This does not mean you shouldn’t seek help if you are struggling with the trauma you faced, this merely means the cause of your condition is not your fault.

  1.     Learn about common reactions to trauma.

Understanding what you are experiencing related to your trauma is extremely important; it can be a good indicator of when it’s time to get help. Researching side effects of trauma will reassure you that what you are experiencing is a normal reaction. You should never feel abnormal or broken because of how you are dealing with your trauma.

  1.     Connect with others.

It probably doesn’t come to any surprise that trauma is sometimes difficult to communicate. It may cause you to want to pretend like it never happened and you may be considering not talking about it. In a lot of circumstances, this is not the case. It’s important to remember that you are not alone, even if it feels like you are. Just know that there are other survivors out there. They are ready to talk and help you. Talking to others who don’t truly understand what you experienced may be hard. You may find comfort in talking to someone who has experienced similar unfortunate circumstances. You don’t have to share the details of your trauma to connect with others; you can simply focus on having someone there for you when you need them.

The world can be a scary place, and after experiencing trauma it may even seem hopeless. But never give up hope fighting to gain your freedom back from the grip of tragedy. You have it in you to heal and recover. It will take time but never let your trauma define you.

Suicide Is Not The Answer

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Sometimes, communicating traditional messaging about suicide prevention is not enough. People react to communication in different ways because no two people or situations are the same. If you feel that nothing that anyone says makes a difference, consider this. Here are some scientific reasons why your life is valuable.

  1.     Your feelings are all chemical.

According to research conducted by Elliot Schrefer, “Happiness and its opposite are both electrochemical reactions; those reactions are temporary and ineffable, and could even have hidden benefits. While the symptoms of depression, for example- lowered energy, decreased willingness to engage with others- could be an evolutionary response to a pressing need to change your life.” As Schrefer evaluated in his research, your emotions in a given moment are temporary. Not to say that your feelings, such depression, shouldn’t be taken very seriously. They are in fact true feelings. However, know that those feelings will eventually subside, even if, in the moment, it feels like you will forever be stuck with that feeling of grief.

  1.     Your teeth were made in the stars.

Another fascinating research conducted by Schrefer states that “Except for hydrogen and helium, elements require such extraordinarily high temperatures to form that they can only be created in the stars themselves. That means all elements in you – the carbon in your skin, the calcium of your teeth – was born in the collision of atoms in a star.” This fascinating study only furthers your uniqueness as a human being. You are special, and you are extraordinary. All that you are made of comes from beyond your home, your state, your planet, your universe. You are so much more than you think, and, really, who can argue with science?

  1.     Many creatures that live on the Earth are depending on your existence.

There are around 6.7 billion people on Earth. In our lifetime we will never meet every individual on this planet. This may cause you to feel as though not many of them care or even know much about your existence. However, according to Schrefer, there are;“1012 billion organisms or roughly a thousand times the number of people on the plant.” If you stop your existence, you stop theirs. They need you to survive in this world. Who is going to argue that a dog is a man’s or woman’s best friend because, at the end of the day, the species on this planet need you to exist to continue their lives?

  1.     Rejection is a sign of progress.

Consider Einstein, for example, a scientific genius. But he was an outcast in his time, rejected because his brain thought differently than everyone else’s. Also, for example, Michael Jordan who didn’t make his varsity high school basketball team, and was later cut from the team. Now he is a billionaire, and one of the most well-known basketball players in the world. Rejection isn’t  the end, it’s constructive criticism that can motivate you to keep going.

  1.     Pick a leaf, and it’s all your own.

If you live in an area with a tree, go take a stroll outside and pick a leaf. Leaves are comprised of a sequence of amino acids in DNA and grow in different combinations of symmetry, and individuality. There are many leafs in the world, but this one is yours, different from all of the rest. This leaf should remind you that you are special, unique and one of a kind. Don’t forget that.

When you are born into the world, you are here for a reason, you have a purpose and a place even if you don’t know it yet. You’re going to have bad days, bad weeks, even maybe bad months but always know there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Every Day is a Fresh Start

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Every morning is a promise for a new day, no matter what happens the day before, whether you lost a job, made a bad investment, had an argument with your significant other, etc… Here are four ways to turn your days around for the better.

  1.     You can’t change your past, so don’t hold it against yourself.

Forgive yourself and forgive others. Forgiveness isn’t always easy, you may have started an argument and didn’t know how to control your anger, or lost your job and are unsure why. Letting go of grudges is a way to clear your mind of negative thoughts. We are all human and we all make mistakes. It’s important to understand these mistakes and learn from them. Not every mistake is going to be the end but it’s something to grow from. Take every mistake as a lesson instead of giving it a negative connotation that may be wearing you down.

  1.     Focus on tomorrow. Focus on new beginnings.

Every day when you wake up you have a new chance to start over. Now, this doesn’t mean when you wake up your world is going to be magically different. You have to be the change you want to see in the world and your life. That being said, it’s normal to feel the pressures of yesterday invading your happiness of today or tomorrow but you can’t let that stop you. Continuing to dwell on the past won’t change the past and, it won’t change what’s ahead of you. New opportunities to find happiness await if you are open to the possibility of letting the past go, and letting new doors open. Every day is a fresh start, so you are given the opportunity to start again.

  1.     Every decision you make is an opportunity to practice self-discipline and correct your mistakes.

If you’ve been too busy with work and have been ignoring your friends send them a quick text. If you have an argument with your significant other, apologize. If you didn’t get a good grade on your test, ask your teacher what you did wrong, so you can correct it for the next time. If you are running low on money, don’t go out and buy dinner, make dinner at home. The list goes on and on, there is always a way to correct your mistakes so you have a better tomorrow.

  1.     Everybody makes mistakes. No one can be perfect 100% of the time.

The best way to ensure that better days will come is understanding that no one is perfect. You will make mistakes for the rest of your life but if you use them positively instead of negatively you can’t go wrong. Holding yourself to these expectations will make every mistake feel like it’s the end of the world. Always remember that your flaws make you an individual and knowing how to correct your mistakes will make you feel more comfortable with yourself. Understand that your mistakes aren’t necessarily a direct sign of your character or who you are as a person. They are natural and they can be so minimal that they shouldn’t mess up tomorrow. The most important thing to take out of these four steps is the importance of learning from your mistakes and ensuring that you correct them in the future.


Understanding Anxiety Disorder

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Anxiety is a common word used to describe everyday stressful situations, such as running late to work, missing a deadline, etc… However, If this feeling is so overwhelming that it makes you incapable of performing daily tasks, you may want to talk to a doctor about the possibility that you may have an  Anxiety Disorder. According to the Anxiety And Depression Association of America, “Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older”. Having an Anxiety Disorder is often mistaken for other illnesses, so it’s extremely important to understand exactly what an Anxiety Disorder is. Anxiety is your body’s natural response to fear, stress, or danger. Anxiety isn’t always a bad thing, it can help you stay alert, and motivate you to complete tasks. Anxiety becomes dangerous to one’s health when you feel constantly overwhelmed, in a consistent state of panic, or when it begins interfering with your personal life, such as work or your relationships.

There is a multitude of different forms of Anxiety Disorder. These forms of disorders cause constant havoc for the individuals who suffer from them. Anxiety Disorders are interconnected conditions rather than an individual disorder, that is why they can differ from person to person. According to the Anxiety And Depression Association of America, the most common forms of anxiety disorder are Social Anxiety Disorder, Generalized Anxiety

Disorder, Panic Disorder, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, Specific Phobias, and Persistent Depressive Disorder.

Specific Phobias affect 19 million adults in the United States, which makes up 8.7% of the population. Men have a lower chance of developing this disorder, women are twice more likely to suffer from this. Symptoms usually begin in their early childhood, the average age is 7 years old.Some common phobias are Arachnophobia (fear of spiders), Ophidiophobia (fear of snakes), Acrophobia (fear of heights), Aerophobia (fear of flying), etc… Furthermore, Social Anxiety Disorder affects 15 million adults in the U.S. It is common for Social Anxiety Disorder to affect men and women in their early stages of adolescents. The average age that doctors have seen signs of this disorder emerging is 13. People suffering from social anxiety disorder may feel extreme discomfort being around a large group of people. This can interfere greatly with their daily performances such as going to work or going to the grocery store.

Despite different forms of anxiety, they all share one major symptom: persistent or severe fear or worry in situations where most people wouldn’t feel threatened. There’s a broad spectrum of symptoms that occur within these cases from not being able to engage in social interaction to triggering panic attacks in high-stress situations. Symptoms of anxiety range from physical to psychological. Anxiety Disorders are associated with migraines, asthma, and heart disease, among many others.

An individual may suffer from anxiety attacks at any given moment, whereas someone else may get stressed when thinking about giving a speech in front of a group of people. Symptoms to look out for if you think you are experiencing a form of Anxiety Disorder are a pounding heart, sweating, headaches, dizziness, short of breath, shaking or trembling, etc… If your anxiety affects your physical health, your work/relationships, if drugs or alcohol are used to self-medicate, and if it’s causing you to miss out on the joys that life has to offer then you should consider getting help.